Quoting kewlkitti: </font><blockquote><font class="small">Quote:</font><hr /> once we have been "intimate" that to me would show that we are ready to work together on this marriage. he knows that step means we (me) cannot go back, we have to make it work.
in my head, once sex has taken place (which to me is the outward manifistation of the inward feeling of forgiveness) that is when we can leave the past behind and get on to a newer and better relationship. it would be like starting over.
now of course you have to realize these are my "feelings" - so they may sound crazy, but that is how i feel. i won't think we are BOTH working on this until sex has taken place.
weird?
kitti
not weird at all...but if I'm reading what you are saying..it is not that the act has to take place for the r to begin or for the healing to start..but that the act is a display showing that the r has started etc.
I'm just trying to understand what you are saying...I think I get it...but the way you are putting it almost sounds like the r starts with sex...rather than the r grows and leads up to sex.
