H still hiding A

[Beans]

So hear it is.
I decided to write H a letter instead of talking to him. And I will use your suggestions Puppy. Everytime I talk to him, he turns things around and I am unable to think on the fly like that. I tend to shut down. So I figured a letter would be better.

I was doing the checkbook Mon. and noticed that our taxes came back. I texted him are we still gonna split that money? That was our originally agreement, he wanted to buy a couch with his money. He texted back: maybe we should put that money towards a lawyer. I texted Ok, I will earmark that lawyer money.(even though it will only pay the retainer fee for one of us!) He has no clue how much this is going to cost! Money we don't have!
He texted: Do you want me to find a us a lawyer? I didn't respond to that! then he texted 20 min later. Do you want me to find one? A couple hours later I texted him: Whatever you need to do. Then I contacted one myself. I have had my consultation and really liked him.

This is going way too fast! Is there anything else I could/should be doing. It feels like I'm not doing enough to prevent this from happening. It feels like this is sitch is picking up speed, faster and faster towards the end. We don't even talk anymore, I have been dark is seems like a very long time, about 6 weeks. And he has contacted me less and less. Now only about kids and D. Is this how it is suppose to be?