Are you being patient that she will change the way she behaves or just being patient with yourself? You will get to a calm place soon.
It is sad about the messages and your daughter. Can you call her at a specific time each day so she knows you will call her then and if she hasn't talked to you she can go to her Mom and ask?
I fb-mailed the question to you so it isn't on my board. Just when you can, I will appreciate it.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory