Thanks Kev, I really needed your words. You are absolutely right. The week away caused a lot of anxiety in me. I don't know why it's happened this time. I guess because he didn't ask anything about us before we left and the fact that he seemed uninterested. And the fact that he didn't call. I kind of know how things will pan out this weekend. We are always on our best behavior to make everything as 'normal' as possible and to avoid conflict. It's for the best actually because then there is no awful scenes. My goal is still to make the kids as happy as possible. I don't want them to hurt.
Thanks for yur input from DB Coach, I didn't know the first stage takes up all the time. I guess especially since there is OW involved, and MLC, it just takes even longer. OK, now my expectations are lowered and I can relax a bit. I will try to be friends. The kids called him because they wanted to talk to him after we arrived. I just acted real casual on the phone and asked him how his week was. He hummed and ahhed and said he was busy, everyday. ( Yeah right, the weekend as well, uh-huh). Well, I just let it slide. No use pinpointing him and needling him. I am expecting him to lie. It's just a pity that he feels he still has to lie now, after eight months of no confrontations he thinks I will confront him NOW??? That's why I feel sad, it seems like he doesn't feel comfortable with me at all and lying is his main form of communication with me. So very sad.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
