Husband of WAW

[antlers]

Hello Antlers,

I, like you am experiencing the same situation. I have received lots of fantastic advice on Newcomers - alot of it I have taken on board, some of it I should have acted on but did not have the guts for fear of upsetting my WAW. Now, I am trying to do my best in forgetting about her (though it is incredibly hard) and trying to get on with my life, and think about my D11 and S7. I cannot control her actions or her thoughts so I have stopped pleading, crying, threatening suicide as these only pushed her further away from me. She has detached from me because as Puppy said she does not want to face the reality of what she has done to our family and hopes it will all go away quickly. She has filed for divorce and wants it resolved as quickly as possible without an conselling or relationship talk. I have not found any proof to date of OP but I have to try and put that out of my mind as it just eats away at me and brings me down.

We have just seperated and I am now attempting to GAL, PMA and trying to get through each day as best I can. It has become easier since the bomb was dropped in December 08, but it is a long process.

antlers, please give me some more information on your sitch - Has your wife given you a reason, is there someone else, is she wanting a divorce/seperation, are children involved?

She said she was unhappy and hurt for years because of the verbal and emotional abuse that I dished out. She says I treated her "like sh!t". I didn't appreciate her, and I took her for granted. She kept it bottled up for years, and she got to the point where she had to leave to "find herself" again. It's all in my thread in Newcomers. She has repeatedly said there is nobody else. I believe that. We are separated...the last time we talked, about a week and a half ago, I asked her if she was going to file and she said she has been thinking about it. We have a 20 y/o daughter who has her own apartment, and we have a 12 y/o daughter and an 11 y/o son.