Well, to detach means to let go of the poison and I have always tried to do that. My faith has also enabled me to recognize that what happened between her and I is now between her and God. I know when I face my maker I can say I did everything I could, what she will say is none of my business. The issue for me is also that we have two children to raise together and the better we get along, the better for them. My philospohy is that when married I tried to show them what it meant to be a good husband and father and now that we're separated I'm trying to show them how adults should behave when life kicks us in the head. I don't mean to sound self righteous and my situation may be easier in some ways as I have a spouse who also wants to play ball, but that's how I see it. Now, if I find this too confusing or it's stopping me from finding a new R, then I will pull back. Right now, I feel OK about it. BTW, she's invited me to come with her and the girls on Saturday to visit a group of old friends, I'll probably go. Sunday she's coming to my church with the girls to watch me perform in the choir and then we're going to my parents for dinner. Is this weird? Probably, but whatis is! I'm not trying to re-ignite anything with her, she's not someone who is willing to accept compromise or particularly caring in a R, and apparently not faithful either! I'm willing to interact on a different level and that's where it's at right now. Thanks for dropping by FLTC, I'm still checking in on you!
