HELP! Is ML to try to reconnect a mistake?

[trampledheart]

kjensen,

I have an appointment next week so will see what meds would be best, thanks for your giving me your expertise.

stuck808,
I'll ask the doctor if he thinks I need meds... I know if would be best without it..

Lola,
Thank you for your info about Effexor, I also put that on the list with kjensens info on SSRI meds to ask doctor about.

BND,
I will have to look deeper, but off the bat:

Listening would easier if H would have said something - anything! But he really doesn't say much. Many people have commented that he always just listens and laughs, and never really says much. They said he's hard to talk to, keeps a wall up, doesn't open up.

Making time for him would be easier if he wasn't away 50-80% of the time for the last 7 years traveling for work. He didn't have time for us, my daughter and I would eagerly await his returns so we could be with him.

Sex - we had sex everyday that he was at home - no lie. Everyone is surprised to hear that but it's true. Sex was not a problem except when he started in 2006 to relentlessly try to have a--- sex! I was afraid to sleep with my back toward him!

Yes, my daughter always came first. When my daughter was younger, she would want me to sleep with her and he got mad at that. They used to fight over me! After she fell asleep, if I was awake I'd make it back to our bed... Maybe there is something to that... I will think more on this...

Please let me know what you all think about how H and I interact from the emails too... Thanks everyone!