I really appreciate your feedback. I will get DR and look up the last resort technique. I am not contacting him, and giving him his space. yes, you are right; i know he is with OW and I cant change that; i can only change my own actions and thoughts. i am lucky, i have wonderful friends who i love and who love me. i have this wonderful site. i also have faith in god that he will create the perfect outcome for us all. i guess i feel that at the moment he is so far away, especially because of the order that is placed on him. that was a very difficult decision to make but i had to do it. i needed to regain some of my own power in the situation. his decision has changed my life and has made me think about what i really love and want in my life. love is patient etc; i have this on my desktop. it is my mantra. yet by loving myself and taking out the order on him; am i loving him. is it tough love in the sense that i am holding up a mirror for him to see himself? i feel that i want to move forward in my life with honesty. love.integrity. i am leaving a door open for him but he has to want to see the door and knock on it. i cant show him the way. and the way things seem at the moment; in both his words and actions, is that he wants absolutely nothing to do with me, permanently, except for care for our daughter. he has said it has been because of the order; that all of his goodwill for me has gone. thankyou for your time, love is patient and love is kind. love never fails.
