Have you read Divorce Remedy? If you have it...jump to The Last Resort Technique. That's where you fit. If you don't have it....read everything on this site about it. In a nutshell....back off of him. Make him miss you.
Do not do anything that is pursuing: calling, emailing, etc. If/when he does contact you...your attitude needs to be NON-CHALANT. And this is going to have to be a very long-term plan for you.
Don't snoop, you already know he's having an affair. The only value you will really find in that is to find out what is appealing to him about the OW and what was appealing about the exW. ALSO recall what did he really like about you when things were good.
FOCUS ON THE POSITIVES. What you focus on EXPANDS.
Also---more positive is more attractive. Have lots of fun. Love isn't always fun, but fun very often leads to love. Enjoy your daughter. Pamper yourself. I have been through lots of stress and heartache in my many years.....and I've found.....the sooner I decide to really enjoy what and who is around me, the better life is for me and everyone else. So now...I get to that much sooner. So really try that (maybe you are).......because you deserve to be happy.
Hang in there, and don't let anyone talk you out of what you want.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
