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Ahhhh......you guys! Now I know you really do love me!!


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Thank you, Sally Field . . .

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HA! I didn't think about that or I could have really spead it on thick....... \:D


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Okay, well......went to yet another doctor (what joy). He looked over my records and said I was a "train wreck" (just what every woman wants to hear at this age....lol). So, he takes about three pints of my blood to test and told me to be back in a couple of weeks. I go back and it's worse than I thought. He would not even discuss all the test results, but he did say the adrenals were completely shot. He did not use the term Addison's Disease but just said that was what President Kennedy had. Also, my thyroid is all out of whack and he said that no B12 even showed up in my blood!! I think he was trying to tell me kindly that I was dead and didn't know it. Anyway, he believes in using natural vitamins, etc. as much as possible and has started me on......I don't know how many. He said he would discuss my "other problems" when he saw how I was responding to this round of meds. He can only put me on a few at a time so he can measure what is helping and what isn't.

Anyway, that is my update and I knew it would be so exciting!! I am trying to be funny to keep from crying. No, seriously, I'm really not that upset b/c I felt that there was more wrong with my system besides the Fibromyalgia and I have wanted to find a doctor like him that would run all those "panels" in the blood work. I don't know if they can do anything about the adrenals or not. I read that once they are shot.....that's it. But, I can't help but hope. Some prayer going up would be greatly appreciated.

Take care all,
Sandi


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Hi Sandi,

Can you help Alexa in Newcomers?

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I'll Do my best. Thanks for asking; I take that as quite a compliment.

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Yes it is.

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Hi Sandi,

Just checking in to see how things are going.


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Hi Stuck, thanks for checking in. I am working with a new doctor about my health and it will take time to see if he can do anything. Otherwise everything is okay. I have not been on here as much as I was b/c I have been trying to spend a little more time in the evenings with my H, if it's nothing but watching boring TV shows (lol). I don't want to get burn-out coming here on the board so much, so I thought I'd back off for a while. However, I've said that before and it never lasted very long before I'd be right back at yaking everyone's ears off.

So, how are you doing in your life?

Sandi


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Hi Sandi,

I'm so glad to hear you're doing fine. Sometimes you just don't know what happens to some of the people when they don't post after awhile.

I'm actually doing pretty well. I think when last I posted, my W had come home in Dec. and things have been up and down since.

The latest is that a couple of weeks ago we got into a R talk (I brought it up) and I confronted her with some of the things she did to me during her EA and some of the things that she had me do for the OM which I didn't realize was the A person at the time. She told me she didn't realize she had done all of that.

I pretty much sat and told her everything I thought was going on inside of her since she has never talked to me yet about her emotions. I told her about how she has been acting out of fear and that she was the one who acknowledged she needed a C but never went, etc. Well afterwards she thanked me for the talk.

She told me that she "wanted to love me" but felt no attraction so didn't want to spend time with me. I told her that was the problem. That we didn't spend QT together after we had our two kids and that's how she got into the EA with her boss in the first place. I also told her how she pretty much gave all of the attraction points to him while taking them away from me during her EA. And again she thanked me for the talk.

I guess what's been bugging me is that she has never apologized for anything she's done. And gets defensive when I had brought it up before. She doesn't any more. In fact, we actually stayed up and watched tv alone together which was the first time we had done that in over a year. We even had lunch together alone which was the most awkward lunch I've ever been on. It's like throwing two people who don't like each other together. It was polite and cordial though and I told myself we had to start somewhere.

So I guess I was wondering from your POV. When you had your EA, did you admit it to your H and apologize? My W still works with her EA since he's her boss. I don't think anything is going on but she won't move positions to be away from him.

What do you think?


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER
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