The analysing of every little thing only stops when you have detached. Let go of the rope.
The way to detach is to GAL. That is start doing things and meeting new people. This does not happen over night but it will happen.
You cannot control your spouse, only can control your response. If your happy ML with H still and you feel safe , then thats good for you.
You have to stop focusing on him and everything he says and does. It wont help you one little bit. Stop persuing and by being so in tune with him, he wil sense that you are right where he wants you and that is available , should he have a change of heart. This is persuit.
Time is definitly the key. Crying is normal and a release. Allow yourself that time to grieve. It will be better for you in the long run. holding emotion in will only add to your depression. It would be nice if you could find a litle anger as well. That will propel yu forward. The nger though needs to be approriate.
Dont tolerate his leftovers and crumbs that he throws you. It is not appealing. Try to get back up on your feet and take some control of your life back.
