Confessions from a former cheater...

[ppenton]

ppenton....that is great for your family about Easter. Not to be a downer but, she likely thinks of herself as a saint for spending a couple of hours of family time. Now she can "guilt-free" run off and spend the rest of her day with OM. Sorry, because I know you hope this is a good sign, but its not necessarily one. It is likely to be a great day for you all, and I think you should really enjoy it as it might be one of the last of its kind....but on the other hand, don't ever lose sight of the fact that she has abandoned those kids on you and her focus is only on the OM.

I know you know this, I'm not lecturing. I feel bad as I know you still wait and hope for a good sign.

The only thing that might change this for you is when her and OM crash and burn, and it will happen. It will likely take another year though.

In the meantime, look GREAT at church, make sure the kids look great, and make it seem like you have important plans later in the day so you have to rush off. Don't linger in the parking lot or ask her out to lunch after. Just assume she will rush out of there, so you rush out of there, too. Actually DO have plans too, don't just bluff.

I just have to say, I don't understand people who abandon their kids. I just don't understand it and that is one area where I can't really give advice. I always put my kids first and I would have never done what your W is doing...my ex-h is the one who abandoned our kids, apparently to punish me. So it strikes a chord with me and makes me hurt for you. I've been there.

Please hang in there...

DQ

Thanks again, {{{DQ}}}

I am hanging in there and I know if W shows up to church that it will be more for her to feel better than for wanting to be with me. I'm just glad she wants to spend some time with the kids. And I do have plans for the day as we will go to my parents house and some of my uncles will be there and so will be lots of good food!
I also do not understand how people can leave there children either, I would not trade places with my W for anything. I love these kids way too much to not be here day in and day out

As of right now, I am willing to hang in there as long as it takes God to soften her heart. I know He can do it just not sure if W is willing to listen or open up to Him.