W is retarded... she was over at OM's house after she got off work, and I'm working from home today so was sitting here with my camera to film.
Text-messaged BIL just as an FYI and she left not long after with OM pretending to have binoculars up to his eyes pointing at my window like a jackass lol.
More evidence, but I did have to fight the urge to text-message her to remind everyone she associates with in the neighborhood that they will be deposed under oath.
Filmed/documented is good enough I suppose. I guess she is figuring the 'just friends' card will make sense with the total package of evidence/testimony.
Probably shouldn't have even involved BIL... but it ruined her parade so meh...
Thoughts?
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Yeah, I wouldn't involve any of her family AT ALL.
And, yep, she will just say that she has been long time friends with this man. I'm guessing that they will play you out to being a controlling, overly jealous, paranoid husband. They know you have this footage so they realize that if they stop now it would look like there WAS a relationship. But, since she is being OPEN about it it MUST be just a friendship you see.
Yeah, I wouldn't involve any of her family AT ALL.
And, yep, she will just say that she has been long time friends with this man. I'm guessing that they will play you out to being a controlling, overly jealous, paranoid husband. They know you have this footage so they realize that if they stop now it would look like there WAS a relationship. But, since she is being OPEN about it it MUST be just a friendship you see.
Yeah well I mean the initial footage was her dumping her car off at a grocery store parking lot over night to spend the night with him. Anything else just shows there is an ongoing 'relationship' whatever they try to play it off as it isn't going to fly with anyone with the reasoning skills over 3 years old.
I think she is just doing whatever she wants to do and just doesn't care at this point.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
She'll say, "He is JUST a friend, but I knew my overly jealous, psychotic husband would accuse me of something more so that is why I did this. I just needed to get away from him." Wait, though, ...didn't you say you had footage of a kiss?
She'll say, "He is JUST a friend, but I knew my overly jealous, psychotic husband would accuse me of something more so that is why I did this. I just needed to get away from him." Wait, though, ...didn't you say you had footage of a kiss?
Yeah. So nobody is going to buy it. People can say anything, but being believed is a different story.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Since she had D1 with her I text-messaged her the following:
Originally Posted By: text
I can't stop you from having an affair, but have more respect for our daughter's health. You should not put her in your drama. Good mothers don't do that.
Very likely she'll view that as a way to push my buttons and do it even more. Insomnia is back ever since I backed off the legal preparations. My case is pretty much done, so I have had to start feeling things again.
I've fought the urge to set boundaries such as requiring her not to park at OM's house prior to picking up D1, but that wouldn't make me look good anyway, and just makes her look worse by what she is doing.
She goes from childlike victim to vindictive b***h back and forth, although she is more passive-aggressive at this point than straight-up aggressive like she was in the beginning.
I told my preacher/therapist that I'm moving on... haven't told W though. Figured she would get it eventually since actions speak louder than words. Maybe she viewed my compassion/reaching out as passivity? Maybe (likely) she wants a pursuit because she craves the drama and attention. OM is just a means to break me down emotionally so that she can control our relationship. D1 is just a tool for her to use for that same control. She is manipulative, and tries to keep me reliant on her for everything. The more I pull away, the more blatant the A gets.
Not understanding.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Well at first she was keeping the A 'hush hush' but when I decided to change my routine and offer to bring D1 back to her house, all of a sudden she brought the A into the open by staying at OM's house all weekend, yet doing the 'just friends' line to my face.
MIL disrupted her being able to do that the following weekend, so W shows up while I'm working from home during the week to take D1 to OM's house. This was after I made it clear I was not relying on her for anything, just picking up D1 and leaving, and telling her this was no longer her house so she shouldn't be going through things when picking up D1.
We are in the middle of litigation, and I'm sure her attorney would be slapping her forehead if she knew what W has been doing.
Her escalating the "in your face" nature of the A seems directly proportional each time I do something different to move on. I'm guessing she wants to provoke me in some way... but she knows all I do is record her.
I've got plenty of evidence to knock holes in the 'just friends' line, and I really don't see anyone buying it considering all the testimony I'd give about her behavior last year. Plus OM sneaking out of the house on 12/29 and W denying it, yet catching her with OM ditching her car n a parking lot, kissing, etc.
I mean... what sort of mental gymnastics does it take to believe she can lie her way out of it?
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
