@polly -- remind me not to be the next ex-Mr. Polly! LOL.
You're probably right about the guilt. She fesses up to guilt with respect to the kids, but not me except to the extent that she "feels bad" she has to hurt me. Well gosh, thanks.
Outing is tomorrow. I am nervous as a bag of cats. I can't get the thought out of my head now that I'm being set up somehow. I have the same heebie-jeebies I had in the Sunni Triangle. That can't bode well.