Quote: Are you going to go and have a good time? Or are you going to go and resent it because it wasn't on YOUR timeframe, or H is just asking after you hounded him into it?
I have to respond to this one! of course I wont go and resent his waiting so long to ask. I wont take a stance of see I told you so after we enjoy ourselves and feel closer. I will simply say thank you and let the evening show itself for what it is...let him enjoy and see the benifit of making time to spend together. I will do my best to get a babysitter incase he cannot. I will go food shopping and make snacks to bring with us. and if for some reason we cannot get a sitter I will go rent some movies and set up the snacks in the family room after the kids go to bed and treat the evening with the same significance as if we did get out. (and hope that the kids stay in bed)
I don't take an I told you so tone with h when he does act...I do my best not to show any such tone. In fact h's asking me to go to the drive-in stemmed from him asking me where I had gone to the movies sun night and what I saw...I didn't respond with an attitude...I went on line to the drive-in site to see what was playing this weekend with excitement despite the fact that though I have wanted a "date" with h for a long time what I really want to hear from him is ily and I'm sorry for causing all this grief and I'm actively trying to find a productive solution to the customer issue.
I am not "telling" h who he can and can't have as customers...I'm simply letting him know how I feel about her still being a customer.
