Originally Posted By: AliSuddenly I dont think he's working for money.. it feeds his soul, for some reason (nope, dont get it).
I totally concur.
I also don't get it.
But it makes him feel successful, it ties in to his self-esteem somehow.
This is the key. You may say he's "simple" but he's "married" to work and not you. That isn't simple and that isn't right.
Something about work feeds his self-esteem and makes him feel like a man. I'm confident this is something that is deep-rooted in his upbringing b/c almost all "work-a-holics" are this way in order to change the past.
As long as H values work over you, there is no hope for your M. I know the "money" thing and the need to work in this economy, but two people together on the same page can accomplish anything they choose. However, both must be on the same page for it to work.
There are several changes that could occur to make your M work, but H will not consider any of them. I hate to repeat it, but as long as he loves work more than you and your family, you are spinning your wheels w/him.
His IC should eventually allow him to unearth the reasons behind his insatiable need to work, but you may not be willing to wait out the results.
H has to choose. It is plain and simple to me what his decision should be, as I've lost a family and wouldn't wish that pain on anyone.
