Slowly but surely - detach and 180

[hopefulinEG]

We went to see a councelor this morning together. This is our second one with this councelor and I like her much better. She seems way more solution oriented. She is looking at what we are doing now and how to change that. She is also helping us understand why we are doing this. We have talked a lot about W feeling controlled and manipulated and how we can change that. I feel like it is a lot of talk about me but it is the issues that W has that we talk about. Next week I want to make sure we talk about W not me. Let her talk. The C asks me a lot of questions in response to what W says and I end up talking. I need to turn that around a bit.

The moving plans are progressing. We have gotten along fine since our big blowup sunday. We have stayed away from each other though, except for the counceling today. I think this will be somewhat of a relief having her out of the house. For months I have always felt relieved when she wasn't home so this will be good for my mental health. I have to take the dealing with the kids alone stuff just one day at a time and not get to overwhelmed about it.

So overall feeling good today.