Pearl - So when should you go dark? I was going dark to do the LRT and thought the detaching would be easier but the detaching wasn't necessarily the goal (her moving out was about detaching but not the dark part).
Can you go dark and still go to Counceling with them? Just not talk the rest of the week. It seems like our new councelor is good and doesn't let us fight. Today's session we came out feeling better than when we went in. W said it was good to get some insight into what has been going on.
I have to admit that I haven't done much as far as GAL. I have gone to the Bay Area to visit family twice (in 3 months) and I have gone out with a friend twice but haven't found many other activities. I am getting a friend at work to take me to the driving range next week so I can learn golf. I thought that might be a good hobby and a I think it would be pretty easily get people to play with me. One of my problems is doing things alone. All of my friends are married with families and don't have time to do things very often. I have gone to movies alone a couple times but going dancing, etc alone is scary for me.
I have been doing a lot of things to take care of myself/be kind to myself. I won't list them all but I have done a very good job at that; just not the going out part. I do have one "excuse" that I am working 6 days 2pm-11pm right now but that only started 2 weeks ago and will end next week. W will have kids every other weekend so I will have more time that doesn't require a babysitter. I will find more ways to GAL. I know I need to reach out to people more. I know a lot of people as acquaintances and I'm sure if I asked a few they would want to go out. Just got to take that initiative. =)
Thank you Pearl. I appreciate the advise.
Me-38 W-44 D8 & D6 together '95, Wed '97, Bomb 11/18/08 Still in same house
