MB - Time is a BIG theme on this site. Rome wasn't built in a day. Your marriage wasn't destroyed in a day. If you ask the WAW/WAS it was over after the first year. Blah! They will tell themselves anything they need to to justify their actions. DONT BELIEVE ANYTHING THEY SAY AND ONLY 50% OF WHAT THEY DO. Another big message on this board. You need to give up CONTROL. If I asked her about u as a friend she would probably say that you were controlling. Most of the WAW/WAS's would say that. Don't prove her right by pressuring her about the marriage. It's true this is a marathon. Some members on this board have been on her for years NOT months. Use this time to work on you. Become the person YOU always wanted to be NOT HER. Do it for your kids. Use this time to figure out what YOU WANT/NEED. Hopefully, you will still want your wife if this goes on for another year or so, but who knows. Times like these really show what a person is made out of that you can't see until the pressure is on. I unfortunately found out what my ex was made out of. But, yours might be able to dig deep and learn to forgive if you. DO the WORK that everyone on here is explaining to you. It's YOUR CHOICE. Just do it! WORK on YOU and HOPE and PRAY that she chooses to WORK on HER. It's the ONLY way it will EVER WORK. And remember her choosing to come back is on HER TIMELINE NOT YOURS. PATIENCE! PATIENCE! PATIENCE!
