Also, if she didn't want me she wouldn't have come back, right? I mean, she had already signed the paperwork and put money down on her own place. Everything was a go, so why would she just come back to keep up some clandestine affair? It just doesn't make sense. At the root of this, am I not trusting God? He answered my prayers, and He wouldn't do that just to turn around and allow this to happen, so why can't I just let go and let God?
You're surprised that a woman would want TWO plates spinning on her sticks, rather than just ONE?
Why? For security. For validation. Out of fear. And yes, I'm absolutely convinced she DOES love you.
I do not personally think there is a current clandestine affair. But I do think she has inappropriate feelings for this man, and it would be highly inappropriate at ANY time for them to meet alone as friends, much less during such a precarious time in your reconciliation and healing process.
If you don't enforce your own boundaries, don't blame God. You prayed for your wife back, which you got. The rest is up to you.
