it is a terrible cycle that just seem to have no end...I try and try to get h to "be present with me" and when I finally "give up" and start to take steps toward making my life "full" regardless of what he is or isn't doing for the r...that is when he starts with phone calls and a bit of attention...would it be possible to have some stability and not have this constant cat and mouse bit going on??? should it be possible?
Is it possible that you revert back to old patterns once h starts being responsive to you?
hmmmm, what am I doing when h starts with phone calls and attempts at getting closer to me???? being distant, not talking much, not initiating any conversations, not initiating any physical contact, basically just going about my business and trying as hard as possible to just treat him as if he's a roomate.
what "patterns" do I fall into when he's been "trying" to draw me back?? talk a bit more, lose a bit of the edge that keeps me silent, become not as afraid to sit down on the couch next to him without an invitation.
so basically the only way to keep h consistantly engaged in the r is for me to just back off, stay queit and just not care go about my business and "fill" my life with other stuff...hope that at somepoint he may "get it" and if he doesn't well then either accept that half life or leave?
