"are you happier now?"

[sage]

so you see I can't even make plans one week at a time and that is why I would like to schedule a specific night for the week...and sure I'm ok if say wed night is card night but wed night this week he has an appoinment or a bad day and isn't up for it..heck there's always thurs.

LL

I wasn't so much suggesting that you don't plan a specific night...as much as I was suggesting that something about your wording to h "a date a week" seemed to freak him out a bit.

In other words...yah, definitely say "sat. is the night of doing something" and then decide on a weekly basis whether he's going to be able to do something with you or not. If it's NOT, then you go out on your own.

I realize this is asking you to be super flexible and super understanding of his "commitments". I just think that if h doesn't feel hemmed in to something he's not sure he can commit to...he'll be a lot more willing to make plans. Especially if he sees you going off to a movie or dinner either on your own or with friends..

Sage