Let me start off by giving you some insight. My husband and I have been married for 5 1/2 years. In our first year of marriage we relocated a few hours away due to a job opportunity which brought my husband a better position, higher pay and also prestige in his new job. I caught my husband texting a female co-worker via phone bill and found out that he took co-worker to family function in his car. He didn't see anything wrong with what he was doing and still doesn't years later. He claims that nothing happened he was merely talking to her and yes did admit to also talking about intimate things still maintaining his faithfulness. I asked husband why and he said she was available and I asked well why didn't you just talk to your friends instead and he replied "well they are all married and she is single"... Gee tell me am I missing something here?
Anyway we moved back through military back to old house and had 2 children. New job comes up for husband again to move northbound and same old feelings resurface. Husband wears other clothes to work, was late coming home for a month, doesn't have available time for me over phone that he used to, belittles me by telling me that I have let myself go, maybe I should have a tummy tuck when I just casually brought up a surgery that I might consider.. I have asked him to go to therapy and it has been 5 months of me asking him to find someone and said he wants us to work out then he will find a way to find someone.. He hasn't as he says that it is all my problem and not his.. Every other time we have had therapy I have contacted and found therapists, but this time he has just blown it away..Our personal life is almost non-existent and in argument he calls me all kinds of unpleasantries when I ask him if there is another woman.. He says I am psychotic and need help.
I guess there are a lot of tell tale signs just from what I mentioned above and after reading the information found on this site as to signs it does show.. I asked him if there was anyone else and said that I would like to know the truth than find out other ways..
