One of the biggest areas where I see people getting stuck here at the piecing stage is by working too hard to try to make their relationship better, and not leaving any room for their partner to pick up any of the slack. If you don't "enable" your partner to take some ownership in moving your relationship forward, they usually won't. Why should they? After all, you're doing all the work for them!!
A lot of times, once we begin to drop the rope a bit, they WILL pick up some of the slack.
Usually, by the time we're posting on this forum, we've got a lot of momentum built up, and have been working very hard to get to this place. It's hard to slow that pace down. Often times, once we do, it's easy to forget that some of the things that helped us get here, and we fall back into old patterns.
LL, in looking back at your threads from a year ago, it kinda looked to me like the more things that you did to be independent from your H, the closer he got to you. I think I'm seeing some of this now, too, when the less that you want from him, the more he'll give you? And the better you feel about things?
Gotta run now, more later!
JJ
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