I like your thoughts on planning for an emergency (or the worst) and hoping it doesn't happen. I do have to practice some evasive strategies w/communication w/my XW so I can avoid allowing myself to be baited into conflict w/her.
I may have passed a small test today as she sent me another e-mail telling me how awful and wrong I have been to let D take the dog outside the door of the apartment w/out me and instead of replying, I simply did nothing.
I filed her e-mail and did nothing.
She next sent an e-mail asking why I had only made a partial payment to a joint credit card account still in our names and I replied flatly telling her it was all I had and I will pay the difference when I have it or on the 15th, whichever comes sooner.
I left it at that and hit send. She hasn't responded to this one, so who knows what will come of it next. I decided to answer questions from her only and leave it at that.
I need to remember that answering her and engaging only helps her to get her way. When I don't respond, not only does it give me relief from her, but she also loses control over me. I would then no longer be GIVING control to her.
"the test is first, then comes the lessons" - So true.
