WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[confusedinpa]

Don't despair, and don't give up on your marriage. I know you believe in it. I can relate to a lot of how you feel and what you're saying.

Thanks for the encouragement Antlers.

It's just that I really feel like I've messed up in our marriage (I'm not saying it was all me, but I definitely own 100% of my share of the responsibility). Now I feel that I've really messed up trying to save it by setting the cage door free that my wife jumped at it. Part of me thinks it's better that she stays in the house while I'm DB'ing. I'm torn as if she is feeling trapped, that's not a good situation either.

It's easy to second guess what I could have done, but I'm struggling with what I could have done to give her the sense she was free to go, without giving her enough freedom to actually go. Guess that's not possible is it. Could I have helped her try to sell the house, so she would see the light at the end of the tunnel? Or would she have still felt trapped and I would have just wasted more of the 24 month clock before the divorce becomes final.

Sigh, it's painful

I have my therapist appointment today. Not sure what that will do....