I think you are misunderstanding DBing a little bit AF, no offense man.

DBing is about using what works, and not continuing to go down cheeseboards tunnels. Being direct is fine and is within DBing if it is working. Being direct is not necessarily the same as pursuing. Notice you did not beg/plead/cry/throw a tantrum.

DBing principles are solid, just don't confuse them with being a canned "one size fits all" solution. Ultimately it is your life and you have to do what you feel is the right thing.

Best of luck man, I'm hoping the best for you.
SF

Spellfire aka Mike

"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A