Kissak, nobody 'wins' in a D, but at some point it becomes nothing but a codependent crutch and not love. Love is a powerful emotion but you have to have love for yourself too. That is how you break the destructive ties you have to your H. Sometimes, breaking that tie is the most loving thing you can do for yourself, your kids, and your H.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!