From the "other side of the camp"...being female I confronted the OW...according to H, this and a few other things extinquished the flames and caused a bit of guilt to permiate the relationship on the part of the OW because up to that point she only knew what H told her about me...after getting "my side" she felt bad (according to H)
BUT...it can go either way and with OM I think it has more potential for outbursts or physical violence then with women...plus OW was in another state and I spoke to her over the phone...
Just another point of view because each sitch is different...and you never really know what is right to do and what is wrong until it is done and you see the result.
