Retrouvaille saved me - AN #3

[AnotherNightmare]

We had a rough two weeks, and this is the main reason why I was not on the boards. It was not related to our R, but it was a shocking diagnosis my W received a week ago: breast cancer.

The good news is that the diagnosis "cancer" is the one bad thing about the diagnosis. Everything else (stage, type of cancer etc) is rather in her favor. She will have surgery after we come back from Germany (leaving later today) and then 4 weeks later, radiation starts.

It is pretty tough. With my own feelings of helplessness and fear, I can only start to imagine what she is going through right now. Since I will be away for the 12 days and with everything else going on, I might not post as regularly as I used to for a period of time, but I promise I will come back with updates every once in a while.

WOM, to your question about "Love without Hurt", I did all the exercises at home. I think the live boot camp might give you a head start, but I am not sure it is necessary. The important work begins when you come home. Also, there are no guarantees. If you are going to do it, you are doing for yourself. Whether or not you can save your M, nobody can tell. Give it a try. You will definitely feel better.

I started the exercises about a week before my Retro weekend and gave the book to my W a week or two after the weekend. It is hard to tell if she would have read it without our weekend. She was definitely more open to it then. I think the impact on our R was significant, but it is hard to differentiate that from the impact of Retro, which was very significant, too. And we are still not through.