To date, or not to date... life is fun again !

[Truelove]

Hi Cinders,

Thank you for posting to me.

I hope that you and your H can work something out. I can imagine that it will be difficult and emotional. I will keep you in my thoughts.

however being married keeps me and the kids in a finacially comfortable position...and I especially want the kids to have all they would have had (in possibilities and comfort) as they would have had, had we stayed together...

I don't think you are materialistic at all.

Take care and have a good day tomorrow. xxx

[mishka422]

Not materialistic at all....you want the best for your kids and what mother doesn't. It doesn't seem like your reality of D will be quite what it is for some. Will your financial situation destabalize in the extreme? Have to move, give up cars, work two jobs? If not, then you are going to be just fine and so will your kids. That's truly all that matters in this life, right?

Enjoy your day! I hope your weekend is supposed to be sunny and warm!

[Cinderellaman]

You're right, I have been one of the lucky ones here... I realize that every day, when I read other's posts.. And every day, I am thankful to God, for that.

Take care Mishka xxx

[mishka422]

Gosh, I just re-read that and it didn't sound quite like I was hearing it my head. If it came of snotty, I certainly didn't mean it that way. I really was asking the question. Will you be cut off and have to subject your kids to a more extreme circumstance? I don't know a lot about your situation financially but it seems like it's pretty stable. Is your H likely to withdraw support entirely from you and only support the kids? That is what I was getting at.

[brandnewday]

I am sure you will be well taken care of.

Once the ties are cut, and all of the paperwork completed and signed he will have absolutely no more control over you, and that in itself is priceless.

[Cinderellaman]

Mishka, no worries, I know you meant it well !!!

Hi BND ...yep, I agree with you, but I also know he'll try to find ways in which to still have some control over me... financially mainly of course. But I guess time will tell how things work out.

I may be off on a date tomorrow, so wish me luck !

Take care xx

[Truelove]

Hi Cinders,

I hope your date went well if you really did go. Take care and have a lovely Easter. xxx

[mishka422]

do tell!!!!

[Cinderellaman]

Nope, never went on my date... the guy had something come in between... that's ok.

I wanted to come and post because D10 was talking to me today...she said she crawled into bed with her dad this morning, and as they were cuddling, he said to her..."I wish I could wake up like this every morning"

Then at breakfast he said to the kids..."I'll miss you guys today...it's such a shame that we can't spend more time together".


There was a time when I may have jumped with joy at this... and thought...'yes, that's the consequence of leaving us...' but today, something totally different went through my mind - and heart... I felt bad for him, sorry even...I felt sad that he wasn't seeing his kids grow up, that he couldn't cuddle them as often as I can, that he gave so much up without realizing how much he'd miss them, and it has saddened me...

Then D10 said to me "one day, mommy, he's going to regret it..." I asked her if she really thought so... and she said "YEP" "One day he will !!!"

I feel bad for H. I empathize with him because as I've said many times before... even though he got his ow, he didn't get the best part of the deal in all of this....

Thanks for reading... take care xxx

[mishka422]

Awwww....that is a piece of life they willingly give up to chase their ellusive "happiness" isn't it? It is sad. I'm glad you see it for what it is though.

Have a wonderful weekend!