Episode IV: A New Hope (?)

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Did as I hoped and called earlier last night. At first i thought she wouldn't answer, but she did right before the voice mail picked up. Still somber sounding. Didn't ask/comment about the settlement offer. We just basically shot the breeze for a few minutes waiting for S12 to get home and get on the phone. I thanked her again for the offer on Easter but that I was doing dinner on Saturday, went through my itinerary and she became even more somber.

Then she said "it's fine anyway because we have to go to church on Sunday for the Easter festival". Well, me being the one who wanted us to start going to church regularly when things started to fall apart reminded her that it was last Sunday, always a week before and the boys knew this too, then she got even more somber and asked to call back in a few minutes.

When the boys called me a few minutes later it came to my attention OM was there already. And, each one of my boys continually asked "do you watn to talk to Mom?" which in my experience means 'Mom wants to talk to you'. However in keepin gin with my new found streingth I knew talking to her would only lead to another attempt of her to try and break me down or something and declined and simply said, no, I can talk to mom anytime, I called to talk to you.

I know they (STBX & OM) are not getting along and that's not my problem. Nor is it my problem that creates an issue for any holiday plans they may have had. I'm awaiting to see if she has the brass to ask to come to my family dinner, I highly doubt it, but after the New Year's event that she still proclaims she wanted to be with me and was not a gimmick to keep in the house, I'm keepin gopen mind to a polite response in telling her that wouldn't be a good idea.

Anyhow, seeing the boys tonight, bowling as usual, this time on a TIGHT budget, so tight I can buy them dinner, but looks like I'm not eating eh well, it all about them.

Few odd things involving S12 - due to his set-backs from abuse as a baby by STBX's X, he's not the greatest speller yet. When he does send me text messages, he uses erratic spacing and mis-spells. Last night, I get a text around 10pm (when they should be in bed), "Dad what are you doing" perfectly spelled and spaced and punctuated, so i know it wasn't him. He's also particular about his brother using his phone so I'm sure that's not the case or he would have put his name afterward. Wonder what that was about? Also, S12 asked "can we give Mom a ride home again?" after I declined to speak with her.

The strangeness continues.