Ive been reading the DB book, Reading that and reading here is really helping me put things into perspective. Some of the strategies ive used, however i understand know that I need to change the way that i use them.

I did ask her to have lunch with me sat. when i pick up our daughter, i said nothing fancy, no divorce/marriage talk and she said maybe. I replied that i could live with that told her to have a good day and got off the phone.

The last time that i saw her was really awkward, So im going to pull myself together and just and just enjoy the time that i do get to see her.

After finding out about these OM, I have mixed feelings, i still love her very much, but at the same time im disgusted with her antics. Im not a very jealous guy, so i do believe i could live with it we were to reconcile.

My plan is to act as if i understand that she needs to find herself and not pressure her. Also im going to take up somethings that i stopped doing a while ago. I used to work out every day, write music, and work on my guitar playing.

I got to be way too serious towards the end of our relationship. I think working in that bar really put the strain on me, sheparding a room full of drunken people you need to be in complete control of the room. I think i let that spill over to my home life, I was so easy going and funny before.

Anyhow, i want to say again im glad that i found this site, i feel like i have some direction now. Its still hard, she is the last thing i think of at night and the first thing i think of in the morning, but im going to take steps to change that.

thanks-mlb

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.