WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[confusedinpa]

That is still very much up in the air right now. STBX's bitterness and resentment towards me has returned full force and I found out that she is trying to build a case to deny me the 50/50 coustody that we had informally agreed upon.

Again I spoke to my lawyer and he told me to continue spending as much time taking care of D as I can (currently 50/50) which takes the legs out of whatever argument she makes down the road. I believe that 99% of her desire to take more custody is based on her need for child support to afford a new place. She really has gone to that level.

Again talk to your lawyer about this.

Sliver,

Thanks for the insight. I had talked to my lawyer. The toughest part for me is to have my 2 boys bouncing back and forth between 2 houses. I want to keep them full and let my wife take them for visits every other weekend, but she wouldn't go for it. I thought the next best would be let her have primary physical (joint legal) and I will take them for visits every other (my lawyer said that would probably increase child support by 10-20% to almost $3000/month - not that big of a difference). She blew up on that as she said I was ducking my responsibilities. I had challenged her on that as I said I was willing to be primary and let her take them on visits.

Anyway, as you can see from my journaling, we hadn't talked about it since the weekend. I'm sure it will come up tonite.

BTW - I did catch up on your situation/thread. Sounds like you had a great V-day. Much better than mine - I spent it with my wife who hid in the bedroom crying the whole time because she was mad about the entire situation. Let me know if you CG22 has any friends!