Of COURSE men care about the emotional side. They're not robots. Our society has trained them to "brush it off" and "act like a man." They're expected to be wearing a suit of armor at all times. It's not fair at all.
He likely has some shame that he's dealing with. Not only with cheating, but with sexuality in general. Hopefully he will work on that in IC.
Your self esteem has taken a hit from the A's (understandably). Perhaps you can take some time exploring yourself to work on healing. Of course you are worthy and deserving of sex and love and passion. You just have to get there in your own mind, in a healthy way. Have you read any of the books that were recommended to you in your initial thread? They are excellent. Also check out "Mama Gena" books - They are more fun and will help you explore yourself.
By the way, I was hoping you would also put some thought into these questions and provide a response:
1) You want to be chosen, you want to be pursued, you want to be taken. Right? Have you communicated this to your H? Does he understand that in order for you to heat up, you need him to pursue you in AND OUT of the bedroom, consistently, throughout each day?
2) Can you think of instances in which you two communicate the best? When it seems that you are in harmony and "clicking"? Perhaps those scenarios can be leveraged to segue into a discussion about communication, connection, and passion.
As far as feeling like your H doesn't desire you... You're posting in the right forum. We're all struggling with that here! It's a slow week, but hopefully others will pop in to say hello and offer their viewpoints soon.
