you forgot the "so I won't feel guilty about the sex I've had with someone else...."
I have thought about the T+1 too. For me the fact is that if we can't BOTH be better people to each other, then I'm not willing to continue in this marriage. I love him to death. But. He has to grow. And he has to grow up. I have total responsibility for the choices I have made. But I didn't get here alone.
THAT is what I'm not sure I'm going to see - the change...the growing. But I know I love him and that is the hard part.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."