I need some advice/strategy on being seperated. I seperated this week from my WAW who has filed for divorce - the nisi follows in six weeks. She wants this divorce to be completed as quickly as possible, she says to start a new life with the children. I have my doubts as she has lost tons of weight, bought new clothes, absolutely no physicalicality between us, is still angry with me and has she has now detached from ME. I have not found any proof since December 08 of OP or whether she is in an EA/PA, I do not know if she is in MLC mode or as Michelle has said she may be one WAW who just wants out of our marriage because she is unhappy. I do know that anything I do try will go out of the window if there is a OP involved as she has noticed consistent and lasting changes in me, has not mentioned them other than saying "why didn't you do this when it mattered?". The 'changes' needle would go straight back to zero if/when she sees this OP. As I have said I have not found any proof she is in any kind of relationship, but from the great advice I have received on Newcomers I must forget that and concentrate on myself via GAL, PMA etc and building the best relationship with my children.
One strategy from a DB coach was to be as happy as possible when I see her, play with the children, laugh, look as though you have moved on with your life. I cannot go dark as neglect and no communication are a couple of the 'reasons' cited on the divorce papers. I need to have a roadmap to work to in the hope I can reconcile 'It takes one to tango' is something I have read in DR.
Please could someone assist me in planning/advising on what is the best way forward as I do not want to leave any stone unturned in trying to restore my marriage.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
