So this is what I have done: I wrote a letter explaining my feelings and that the situation is toxic and frankly turns my stomach. She knows all of that. I Printed up a complaint for divorce and filled it out in her name as if she is the one demanding a divorce. I held on to it all day and at the end of the day I gave it to my step mother.
I am going to move on and try to just remind myself that I have put up with enough crap from her. She used to be so intelligent now she is this lost little girl and when she reaches out for my help because she knows that the real love comes from me, when she is strong enough she vanishes into her little world where she never has to think about anything but making money and when she is with the troglodyte she does not have to think about her real situation.
I do not want a divorce! I want her to clear her confusion and take responsibility for her situation.
I see what she is going through and what her problem is with committing to our marriage. That is easy. I was really not putting in 100% to building a stable family life. I'm workin on myself and that aspect now.
I gave her the choice to dump him or kiss off now because I got her to the point where she told me she loved and needed me and figured. "Hey I like this, but I need more from her" so I think it was the right time to do it.
Now I just need to stick it out. I did not put a time limit on it though.
I wish there were a way to influence her decision without contact.
You guys, I need you here. I need encouragement that saving my marriage is the right thing!!!! My friends and family no longer support this so I don't tell anyone anything anymore.
