Thanks Yellowrose, I really really needed to hear that. Usually I am so patient, it is just the first positive thing that has happened, it is hard to not want more right away, right now
SL - my h was resisting me big time in the first 6 months. I was doing everything wrong but he didn't know how to tell me to stop, didn't want to hurt me so just used to be silent/ not turn up to arranged dates etc. Finally he said 'stop' and luckily I found DBing. I then let him contact me, which he did roughly every week to couple of weeks by text or email or occasional meeting about finance stuff and our house. I also have been working on reducing guilt and finally nearly 10 months later we have come to a point where he could express that he missed me as a friend, wanted to meet up, enjoyed it when we did meet up and thought about me (the biggest thing for me as I was convinced he didn't think about me). We have not had a r talk since last May, the point I think is that if I had forced this before I would have got a different reaction. It had to be when he was ready, no matter how frustrating! Patience, patience and it seems more patience sigh! Sorry for the hijack YR!
JCJ, my xh doesnt even want to contact me in ANY way. He has a live-in girlfriend and he once said they would be married by the end of the year. She isnt divorced yet, so I guess thats what they are waiting on. They started dating around Dec. and she evently started living there. She is 26, he is 41. Our son will be 19, so its a shame. She would only have been 6 years old, when we married. Sounds sick doesnt it? Up until she started staying permantly, he would talk to me, but I had to do the contacting. Since he left in Sept. I have done most of the calling. Around 3 weeks ago, I stopped and havent spoken to him since. However my son did speak with him in front of me and we past words back in forth thru son. Thats when xh said he was taking a break from me and would speak to me when time is right. (I hate putting son in middle, but xh wont listen). I know I should worry, and I am moving on with my life, but I am so afraid xh will never contact me again. When you stopped calling, how long did it take your husband to contact you? Did he live with ow?
