Well I am jumping on the DA train. I asked my W to move out. I have been totally unable to detach with her in the house and have been constantly backsliding and pushing and pursuing and think about her 24/7. I realized that 1) I need peace from all this and need to detach and 2) I need to stop making things worse. So to accomplish both of those I asked her to move out.
I decided that I had to switch to the LRT and let what happens happen. I can not stay on the rollercoaster anymore. So she moves out Saturday and I will go dark after that. We do have kids so I have to figure out how to deal with that. I know I will be very tempted at first. I will be lonely living alone for the first time (except the kids) and basically being a single parent. I hope I can get some motivation and inspiration from this group.
-Catherine
Me-38 W-44 D8 & D6 together '95, Wed '97, Bomb 11/18/08 Still in same house
