would like to add a few more things, im not sure if this is a mlc or not, some people say it could be others say its not. i forgot to mention my wife did say to me 2 days after she left that she may regret this decision to leave and was very upset when saying it, did i also mention she said i dont want to divorce you?? friends have also told me that she speaks highly of me and said i am a wonderful person, her friend also told me she told her that i gave her the best sexual experiances of her life, last weekend she was out with friends and went home early, she said she was to old for all this partying, andshe did go home beacuse her mother told me, and my friend said she was on facebook, she has asked for help in paying for a rented accomodation, do i help or not? she also asked to help buy furniture, do i help or not? i feel i should. its our anniversary on april 25th, she spoke about the concern of this and it will be difficult to deal with, i echoed that. now im thinking shall i ask her out for a bite to eat and a few beers? my thoughts are like "instead of us both being misrable sat at home shall we go out, not a celebration but just to be there for each other and have a good time" should i ask??? we are very plesant to each other all the time we dont argue about stuff when we chat or text, there is a family funeral in a week and i asked would we going together or seperate and she said together beacuse youe my FRIEND. what does that mean, FRIEND? now she has been questioning my daughter on my whereabouts and when and what time i go to the gym. i joined up 2 weeks ago, sometimes when she text me she will leave a kiss, and sometimes not, am i reading into it to much? so do i just keep taking care of me and the kids and only respond to her text, and only phone or text her regarding the kids, can i be nice to her or do i go cold on her, still so much to tell you guys and ask advice but to much at the moment to try and piece it all together, thanks guys look forward to your responses.