I do know how hard it is when the XH blames you for everything & says you are not the person he married. Mine did that too but that was before D.
My XH also blamed me just after he left for not being the same person he married and he still continues to say so.
I had quite a good week-end. The weather was just beautiful and warm and everybody was on the water front.
Yesterday I went for a bike ride with my GF and today I hurt all over.
In the evening I did meet the guy again I got to know on Friday evening. He joined me at the blues concert which was very good. Unfortunately, the music is always so loud nowadays that it is impossible to have a conversation apart from in the intervals. He seems to be a very interesting person who worked all over the world, but who knows if everything he told me is true. I just don't trust men over 45 anymore. My GF told me that most of them are liars! Anyway, I still enjoyed the evening very much.
Today was another beautiful and warm day and I went for a walk and afterwards for an ice cream.
It was another beautiful and warm day. I met yet another guy today and it was just the weather for a long walk. These men are all nice people but I just cannot imagine having them as a partner.
I am not sure whether I will continue writing on the Internet platform. I found that when I meet a guy in a place face to face it is easier for me to communicate. Unfortunately, I have only just met one guy like this.
I usually come home from a date and think that I am not sure at all whether I am doing the right thing.
Yesterday I sent the guy who I got to know on the week-end an e-mail but so far he has not replied. I haven't really expected an answer in any case. As I said I didn't trust him at all. I think he was just out to have a good week-end. - When I was at the concert with him my thoughts suddenly drifted off and I was thinking that I would rather be here with XH than with a stranger. I felt quite sad and I had to pull myself together not to show my teary eyes. He asked me if I had a list of things I would like to do. He said that life is not worth living if one has no dreams anymore. I told him that I didn't really have a list and my dreams could not be fulfilled that's why I have given up having any. But I would have one thing I would still like to do. Then I told him about the film "The Bucket List" which he didn't know of.
All spring flowers are out and the lawn in my garden looks so pretty at the moment. I have to do some garden work tomorrow or else the weeds will get out of hand and the shrubs will grow like crazy.
No word from XH anymore. – I have not written to him anymore since he sent me his cold reply.
True, Enjoy your garden...even if you are pulling weeds!
Enjoy the time you spend w/the opposite sex. Just remember, you are out having fun and certainly not out looking for a new life's partner right now. When the time is right, the partner that is meant for you will appear. Right now, you are just checking them all out. You aren't ready for anything permanent/serious.
As for your xh....give him time, he'll be contacting you again about something he wants to blame you for. Either he'll stop blaming you for all of his faults or he'll be one sorry, miserable individual for the rest of his life. But, that's his decision, not yours. Live your life to the fullest, for I truly believe life has some pretty interesting and exciting things coming your way when you are ready to venture further from your home.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
As for your xh....give him time, he'll be contacting you again about something he wants to blame you for.
LOL - oh, this made laugh so much!
Thank you for your wishes and encouraging words. It is a beautiful day again and I will surely enjoy the garden even if only weeding. The violets are all out and part of the lawn looks really pretty and all violet at the moment with some yellow primroses in between.
You are so right - I am nowhere near ready for anything serious. I do have fun going out and meeting different people of the opposite sex.
I wish you a nice rest of the week and if I don't hear from you anymore I would like to wish you a lovely Easter. I will see my family and am looking forward to seeing my niece's little ones.
hey sweety.....; it's tough isn't it....stepping into the dating scene again...it's scary, yukkie, nerve wrecking, thrilling, exciting and sometimes like you said...so sad....it makes you miss even more what you once had...
I guess when the right person comes into our lives, the sadness goes away, only to be replaced by warmth, joy and love....
I hope so anyway !
Love to you and enjoy your week ! My garden is full of flowers in pots now too ! Did so on Sunday with the kids...it looks so bright and happy !
Take care xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Nice of you to think of me. Thank you for your wishes.
Hi Cinders,
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I guess when the right person comes into our lives, the sadness goes away, only to be replaced by warmth, joy and love....
I don't really know whether the sadness will ever go away. I guess somewhere in the back of my mind XH will always be there and I will remember a certain time in life when I did something similar with XH. But who knows, it might change later on in life.
Yes, the dating scene is difficult. On one hand I would quite like to meet again the guy I got to know on the week-end. He was rather interesting and we had some interests in common. I googled him and found some entries. So he really seems to be the person he says he is! It somehow annoyes me that he does not reply to my e-mail.
It seems to be that whenever I would like to get to know somebody, they don't want to get to know me. But if I don't want to get to know the guy he is interested in me.
So guys, what am I doing wrong? Any advice?
I finally worked in the garden and pulled out tons of weeds. I also trimmed some hedges. It was lovely and warm and I even enjoyed it for a while!
I was thinking of calling the guy but won't it look like persuing? I don't want to appear too keen. That usually makes the guys run! They want to fight for a woman not get her on a plate! They usually want something they can't have. That's why I want to play hard to get.
