I agree w/ your points. If the woman I'm with doesn't like me being me, then it will be her loss as I'm a very good catch.
However, I will be more guarded w/information at first. The stuff will come out in time, but right now I'm just too negative concerning my XW and how she treats me and that spills over through my overall energy. I think women have been picking up on this eventhough I don't bad mouth my ex either. I am just convinced they can tell I'm annoyed, hurt, and angry w/her when the topic comes up.
So, for now, I'll keep that off limits. If a relationship develops, I'll tell my story then.