G, I have suffered with debilitating depression for a long time. As long as your h knows you are there for him and I am sure he does, it really is best to just let him work through it. Talking to him about it really does make it worse. It made me feel anxious whenever anyone would bring it up.
I really do think it is time for you to lovingly distance. Your h really is not in any shape to even think about reconnecting with you.
You cannot take his depression onto your shoulders.
