Healing from a lifetime of self-deprecation

[faithisbelieving]

The greatest gift that this gives you SH...is ...clarity. Believe me, I walk the same path you do. Over time here, I truly believe in what Dr. Gray of Venus Mars fame says. He states that the hope of reconciliation is really a form of denial and....that TRUE reconciliation can't really occur until the relationship is ended and completely restarted anew.

I believe that. Sadly, I also believe that when we DO get to this point, it's after years of healing and growth,and, the WAS realizing that the person you married WAS the right choice.

I don't know for sure.

I do know that it takes GREAT courage to make that final personal goodbye. It comes from a place within that, we,as men, hardly ever let anyone get close enough to see. It's a closely guarded place that many of us only allow ONE woman get into. It's barricaded with concrete and barbed wire on the outside...lined with porcelain on the inside.

I understand.

The woman that I created life with.....changed...and it won't be easy to make that final departure. You'll heal. The decision on when to start that final path is yours to make. Sounds like it's here and now.

If you want to see courage, I recommend that you find 'trapt' on the boards here. Go to his current thread and read pages 17-19. I think you'll understand when you read that.

Chin up. You are not alone and you'll be OK.
FIB