I think she feels judged because she got busted on the computer with OM. Tell her why you did it and that you don't think the M has a chance while she is involved with someone else. Tell her what you know. Tell her you expect transparency in your R. Tell her you love her and won't share her. I think your plan just got clearer in the near term.
Cheers
ps You didn't have a mole in her IT dept? \:D


M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.