Now he has passed the poly and we are working on R, I'm trying for one, to figure out how to start over. And part of starting over is the sex issue.
"Are you afraid to blatantly flirt with your H? If so, why?" - Yes, I'm afraid. With all of this history, its very difficult for me to "initiate". I have such self-doubt and insecurities built up from all of this. Not to mention the ghost of his OP and there "escapades" that haunt me and eat away at my ability to think of myself as an adaquate lover for him.
"The levels of desire of you and your H? " - Tricky. That's why I started over in the SSM forum. In the beginning, I think he was HD and I was LD. Now, I think the roles have reversed some (not completely though). I have lost weight so that does help a bit on the self confidence part.
So when I ask how to flirt subtly, I am hoping to see a positive response from him. If so, then I can move on to the "communication" needed to find out if he thinks of me as a decent lover. Yes, its like sticking my toe in the water.
