When my Husband was gone I tried to sell our home at my Husband's insistance. He wanted me to move with the kids so that he could be closer to them.
He would spout off directions, and like a good Wifey I would do as I was told so that I wouldn't rock the boat.
For over a year I had the contents in boxes and lived in chaos. I showed my house to whomever was interested and absolutely hated living out of boxes.
He did absolutely nothing to help with the sale of the house and as he lived 3000 miles away had absolutely no clue as to how we were living.
During his 2 1/2 year absence he only made 3 visits home, and each one was for 3-4 days.
Then one day I decided I was sick and tired of living my life in hopes that he may come home and call off the Divorce. I had learned how to detach and although my life was hard, I was actually happy.
I began to unpack the boxes and got my houseback in order. I even repainted some of the rooms in colors that I liked.
I started making plans for my future and I was OK with not taking his calls anymore and not being so available.
As much as I loved him, I was so tired and emotionally spent from all of his MLC-BS and his depression and his wants and his needs.
I got fed up with being on the back burner.
His last visit home I think really worried him. The house was back to normal, the kids and I were making plans and nobody was crying and begging him to stay.
The reason I am sharing this with you is because maybe it is time for you to start making plans for yourself and the children, instead of waiting for him to wake up and rejoin you in reality.
Detach a little more.
Don't be available as often.
((((hugs))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
