Well I guess to say I'm not needing anything is a bit over the top but my other screen name represented someone who was weak and lost. I still need support and patience.
I feel like my wife keeps testing me. I've learned that I was very codependent. My happiness was always tied to whether my wife was happy or not. I bring this up because I was controlling as a result of my codependency. I always had to know where she was, with whom, and when she would be home. So I think test #1 was last Friday when she told me that she was going to be out of town for the weekend. I didn't ask for any info, just said "OK be safe".
I believe test #2 was yesterday. I dropped the kids off to her and asked if she was going to take them Friday. She said,"I don't know. I may have something going on Friday night." I said, "OK. Just let me know either way." She looked at me for a few seconds and said that she would take them.
I'm at a point now where I am very calm when I'm around her and I actually am starting to recognize the different behaviors now.
