I'm reading "subtle" as "tiptoe". Are you afraid to blatantly flirt with your H? If so, why?
Also, you began your initial post talking about not knowing your H's opinion of you as a lover. Your post above is focused on flirting and judging his interest. You can view these as two distinct areas in LM. You can examine the psychological and the procedural aspects of LM.
Can you tell us more about your sitch? The levels of desire of you and your H? Your history?
